Too often we ask, “Why did this fail?”  Situations – often very similar, come up short.  Not because of what we do, but because of the questions we ask ourselves ahead of time and throughout.  After all, we’re all programmed to win, and to achieve greatness – our mind goes into auto pilot, even in the situations we think we’ve failed.

But it’s not really failure, because the end result was cast ahead of time, simply by the way we approach the things we want in life.

The real question to ask is, “Am I willing?”

Am I willing to..

admit whether I’ve been pursuing the wrong goal?

try something new, instead of relying only on the things I know?

listen more, and speak less?

be led more by feelings in the heart, and our instincts?

take the right amount of time to process what is going on inside, and around us?

risk feeling vulnerable in the moments when vulnerability might make the difference?

be a little less selfish, and a little more selfless?

say “I’m sorry,” without throwing in that horribly unnecessary word “but?”

take a stand, when taking a stand matters?

sing in the moments when you don’t really feel like it, so that happiness follows – instead of waiting for the happiness to come first?

do whatever it takes, to make the right things happen?

These are the questions that come to me, on a Saturday night.  There are many more, and your questions may be very different than mine.

Instead of asking, “Why do certain things seem to happen,” the real question is “Am I willing?”  This puts the real emphasis on ourselves – and guides our lives in different directions, if that’s what’s needed.

So, are you willing?

I am willing.